It amazes me how many people settle for health problems like a low libido because they think it’s normal or they are just getting older. Just because something is common doesn’t make it normal. The purpose of this discussion is to get to the root cause of health problems like a low sex drive, and find natural solutions on how to increase libido in women, and if related, men. So instead of just taking another pill, why don’t we actually find out why you have the problem in the first place? Novel idea, I know.
If you’re experiencing a dry spell, or been worried sick about your waning libido, don’t fear, you are probably looking in the wrong place for a solution, and there might be a reason for it that’s simple to repair. It could be as simple as what you put on your plate, or, it could be other simple factors that are fairly easy to correct. If you’re not feeling as enticed or sexual for a while, it could be due to surprising factors that are decreasing your libido, and causing you to spend less time between the sheets with your better half. Not only can this interfere with a current or potential, future relationship down the road, but it can also take away some quality aspects of life that should be enjoyable.
Here is what Wikipedia has to say about Libido, “is a person’s overall sexual drive, or desire for sexual activity. Libido is influenced by biological, psychological, and social factors. Biologically, the sex hormones such as testosterone and dopamine, and the neurotransmitters, regulate the libido in humans. Social factors such as work and family, and internal factors, such as personality, stress, anxiety, and depression, can effect libido. Libido can also be affected by medical conditions, medications, relationship issues, and age.” For more infomation from Wikipedia on libido, read here.
Often when self-esteem is dwindling, sexual desire plummets. Likewise, not finding time for sex or self-pleasure can also create a disconnect with your body and make you feel less frisky, in general. There are incredible benefits to sex or “me time,” such as lowering stress levels, promoting self-love, and boosting oxytocin, the love hormone, with whomever you’re doing the deed with. Getting to the bottom of a low sex drive can really improve your quality of life. Here are some various reasons why your libido is down and a few key tips on how to properly get it back up in no time.
Vitamin A deficiency. Essential for producing testosterone, the sex hormone, Vitamin A is found in eggs, milk, meat, orange or yellow fruits, vegetables, and supplementing with a natural Adaptogen(*). Vitamin A is essential for female sex hormone production, and, for that matter, just as essential for men. Even for the normal reproductive cycle in women, it is essential you have an adequate supply. For men too, Vitamin A is vital to sperm production and virility.
Mineral Magnesium deficiency. Adequate quantity of magnesium aids in getting good sleep. It is also essential for sex drive. Nuts, seeds, eggs, whole grains, brown rice, dark green leafy vegetables, an a natural Adaptogen(*), are all good sources of magnesium.
Vitamin C deficiency. Although vitamin C is more popular for curing common cold, it can also boost your sex life. Citrus fruits and vegetables, and a natural Adaptogen(*), are a good source of Vitamin C.
Mineral Selenium deficiency. Brazil nuts are a good source of selenium. A single piece of nut daily is enough to have a marked improvement in your libido. It is also found in broccoli, cabbage, mushrooms, onions, whole grains, seafood and a natural Adaptogen(*).
Mineral Zinc deficiency. Present in pulses, whole grains, eggs, sea food, red meat, cheese, an a natural Adaptogen(*), zinc is an essential mineral for your overall health as well. Lack of zinc may contribute to sterility or infertility. A deficiency of zinc, however, does not lead to lack of sexual desire, though.
Vitamin E deficiency. Important for stamina and energy, Vitamin E is also good for good blood circulation. You can get it in oily fish, eggs, dairy products, and a natural Adaptogen(*). It is also called the ‘sex vitamin’ because it increases blood flow and oxygen to your genitalia.
Vitamin Bs deficiency. B vitamins can be found in brown rice, seafood, green leafy vegetables, lean meat, wholegrain bread, and a natural Adaptogen(*). Research shows deficiency of vitamin B12 may contribute to lack of pleasure at the time of climax.
Mineral Iron deficiency. Iron is critical for maintaining the level of your sexual arousal. It can be found in red lean meat, egg yolk, green vegetables, dry fruits, and a natural Adaptogen(*). Anemia could be one of the causes for lack of sexual desire and also quality of erection. Iron deficiency could also contribute to erectile dysfunction.
Mineral Phosphorus deficiency. Phosphorus can be found in dairy products, whole grains, eggs, fish, soy beans, and in a natural Adaptogen(*).
Mineral Calcium deficiency. We all know Calcium is good for the bones, but it is also good for your sexual health. Milk, yoghurt, oranges, bread, cheese, and a natural Adaptogen(*), are some good sources of calcium. A deficiency in calcium could hamper coherence. It can also sometimes increase irritability. Any change that is affecting your well being due to calcium deficiency will automatically decrease the desire for sex drive.
Vitamin D deficiency. Great sources include fish, eggs, fortified milks, lean meat for protein, and a natural Adaptogen(*). If you’re a vegan or don’t like these foods, you can take a supplement. Vitamin D can help raise testosterone levels and supply the body with the needed resources for an upbeat libido.
Low testosterone levels. Although testosterone levels never reach zero, as estrogen levels do in women during menopause, low testosterone levels, particularly in men, cause men to experience symptoms such as fatigue, decreased mental acuity, and moodiness, low sex drive, and loss of muscle mass.
While low testosterone is more common in older men, it can occur in younger men as well. For younger men, a drop in testosterone levels can be caused by some illnesses, including type 2 diabetes, chronic liver or kidney disease, COPD, or other lung disease, pituitary gland problems, or other causes, like vitamin deficiency such as lacking vitamin D, using steroids, poor sleep patterns, or trauma. Physically, a lack of sleep can elevate cortisol levels, which also leads to low libido. Treatment for low testosterone include weight loss and other lifestyle changes, such as eating healthier foods, ample restful sleep, increasing exercise, and supplementing with a natural Adaptogen(*).
Anti-depressant medication. Most prescription anti-depressants work by raising levels of serotonin in the body, the person taking the drug experiences a feeling of calm and less anxiety. However, that same sense of calm and stability can lower your libido. It prevents the hormones that cause our bodies to respond to sex from transmitting their message to our brains. Simply put, anti-depressants can turn the dial down on our sex drives. Women taking anti-depressants may experience delayed lubrication as well as delayed or blocked orgasm. Generally, women are also likely to experience lack of desire for sex. In some cases, women report discomfort during sex.
Common side effects, particularly in men, include loss of libido and difficulty getting an erection. Some men have trouble maintaining an erection. Men taking anti-depressants also report delayed or blocked orgasm. Both men and women often experience the weight gain, nausea, dizziness, complete lack of energy, and sluggishness, as a result of anti-depressants. Every person will react to these side effects differently. However, for many people, these additional emotional and physical effects can make the idea of sex less appealing.
Consider committing to some simple, every day activities that will ward off depression naturally, to increase libido in women, and if relevant, in men, without the negative side effects of taking anti-depressants. Get sufficient restful sleep of a least seven hours a night. Learn how to be relaxed and grounded, do things that make you responsible, and give you a sense of accomplishment, such as being mindful, slow-breathing, living in-the-moment, or practicing meditation. Set small, achievable, written goals and act on them. Visit nature frequently. Participate routinely in physical activity. Eat healthy, well-balanced meals from the four major food groups, particularly, foods high in antioxidants, omega-3s, folic acid, an anti-flammatories. Do something everyday you enjoy, which will release the pleasure hormone dopamine. Supplement your diet each day with a natural Adaptogen, which will help regulate imbalanced hormones and reduce stress, anxiety, and depression.
Resentment with partner. When there is a tremendous disparity between partners’ sex drives, and relationships can be difficult to manage. The low-libido partner may feel pushed and resentful, and the high-libido partner can feel abandoned, betrayed, rejected, and angry. While both individuals within this dynamic struggle, the higher-libido partner has unique challenges, and their perspective will be different. Resentment simmers in the background of their relationship. The answer here is open and honest communication. When sexual issues are discussed and worked on openly and directly, many couples can empathize with one another for the first time, and come to a place where they both feel responded to and understood. Each partner needs to venture outside their comfort zone to work on coming together to build a sex life that can be fulfilling.
Excessive alcohol. Alcohol is a depressant, and using it heavily can dampen mood, decrease sexual desire, and make it difficult for a man to achieve erections or reach an orgasm while under the influence. That doesn’t mean you need to cut back completely, most experts say moderation is key. But what is moderation exactly? According to the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), moderate drinking is no more than two drinks a day for men and one drink a day for women. Though some studies confirm that alcohol used in moderation, is good for your heart and circulation, but it can also be responsible for erectile dysfunction. It’s important to remember that sex and alcohol are a delicate balancing act. Remember, the secret is moderation.
Chronic stress. The body reacts to stress by releasing adrenaline and cortisol. Chronic stress, in particular, can interfere with your body’s hormone levels, and result in a low libido. The arteries can also narrow and restrict blood flow in response to stress, which can also lead to erectile dysfunction. Stress can also reduce your libido by distracting you and taking your mind off sexual desire. The same activities and recommendations discussed in the depression topic (anti-depressants) also apply here.
Menopause. Women may experience low libido during menopause for a number of reasons. Estrogen levels drop suddenly during these years, causing much stress, and undesirable effects such as vaginal tissue becoming dry. That, in turn, can lead to discomfort and pain during intercourse and discourage a woman’s sexual desire. Menopause can also lower testosterone, the hormone that boosts libido in women, as well as men.
Interestingly, the same activities and recommendations covered in the depression topic, also apply here. In addition, intake of vitamins C and D should be increased because of the risk of osteoporosis developing. Maintain a healthy weight to reduce hot flashes and night sweats. Eat more lean, protein-rich foods, fruits and veggies, and foods that are rich in phytoestrogens, which mimic the effects of estrogen in the body, such as soybeans, tofu, soy products, temph, flaxseeds, sesame seeds, and beans. Reduce the use of processed foods, and trigger foods and drinks, such as caffeine drinks and alcohol, high sugar, and spicy foods.
Dehydration. Dehydration affects both men and women. Women experience more emotional issues, but the physical negative side effects happens to be more critical for a man. When a man is dehydrated, he does not have as much blood volume in his body as when he is properly hydrated. Therefore, his blood vessels become constricted, as there is not enough blood to keep them tense. This impairs blood flow to all parts of the body, including the penis.
In addition to the physical effects of dehydration that impact penile erection, mood is also associated with dehydration. When a person is mildly dehydrated, they may experience symptoms that include dark urine, dry mouth, fatigue, dizziness, and lack of sexual desire. There’s a very simple solution. Drink a minimum of eight 8-ounce glasses of filtered water daily. And, I said water, not sweet or carbonated drinks.
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